Archives for the month of: February, 2018

Please note: Whether a veteran or new reader of PGG, you might notice I sometimes get a little more political/have a more lengthy commentary based on specific current events rather than a purely personal growth or general theme. This is one of those times 🙂

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Last week I was down in NYC’s financial district, an area where I hadn’t been in ages, not since it was generally unrecognizable due to all the construction. This was the first time I had encountered, if only peripherally, the 911 Memorial & Museum along with an interesting structure called the Oculus, a boney/winged/futuristic transportation hub and high-end shopping mall. The outside is meant to look like a dove, but the word oculus can also refer to an “all-seeing eye,” and with the ubiquitous security in and around the area it sure felt like it.

Looking up West Street and seeing the massive expanse of shiny new buildings in and around the World Trade Center complex, I had to wonder: Is this was the best we could do? In the rebuilding after a tragedy of this magnitude, was it really just about fancy corporate offices and malls with armed guards? What about art and community, or something more organic and aspirational? Yes, the memorial pools are lovely and peaceful, but they are only one aspect, honoring the past and those who perished on that tragic day. In the surrounding environs, couldn’t the developers have sacrificed some rent for something more forward-thinking, inspirational and meaningful than yet another Starbucks, Apple Store, Saks Fifth Avenue, etc.?

With all the negative energy and residue from that fateful day, isn’t there something more uplifting to counteract and mitigate such a blemish on our civilization that could elevate our existence not just as Americans but as humans? If this really was an act of religious war on our way of life, then this only proves that ours is one of consumerism. And then I remembered, oh right, this is the epicenter of a universe in which Michael Douglas as Gordon Gekko proclaims that “Greed … is good.”  I felt like an alien in my own city and commented to many friends my dismay.

Two days later was the horrific mass shooting in Parkland, Fla.; one week later there is huge momentum and a national March for Our Lives scheduled next month to demand #NeverAgain. It’s as if we reached a tipping point of evil that now has a wave of frustration and grief transformed into action as the good rising up to meet it. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that many of the force behind this movement, the juniors and seniors of Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School, were born in the months leading up to or right after September 2001, and/or will be eligible to vote this year. Most would agree with the students that, mental illness or not, these heinous acts would never happen if there were not such easy access to killing machines. This is not about the Second Amendment, it’s about corporations, politicians and the money that feeds and breeds them.

Two days after the mass murder, there was a major indictment of Russian nationals for having interfered in our elections in such a strategic, pervasive way that it could be considered a political massacre. Were they just having some fun meddling in our affairs? No, it was about the calculated quest to control oil, further enrich their oligarchy, and regain status as a global power. Facebook was an unwitting, but more than willing, accomplice in the coup as it increased its reach and overall revenue at any cost to our society and way of life, and we were all too eager and primed to take the bait.

Then just a few days ago, we had record low and high temps across the country – 78 degrees in February in NYC?! These extremes and other violent weather we have recently experienced are symptoms of climate change, aka “abuse” our planet has endured, which is largely a result of those who choose to place current financial gains over profound long-term losses for our environment that will affect generations, and could perhaps lead to the eradication of our species. (See also: Russia in the above paragraph.)

It seems as if every two days we discover someone else in Hollywood who has abused their power as we hear of one sexual harassment claim or assault after another. The cover-ups, silencing and elaborate systems in place despite the “secrets” everyone knew, kept the machine running, ticket sales flowing and shareholders happy but destroyed many along the way. And over the last couple of years, the studios have been more publicly shamed over a lack of diversity and pay inequality; there has been an increase of violence and mayhem in many, if not the sole premise of movies, which apparently are the only ones that could be blockbusters or bring home the box office bacon internationally. All of this is inextricably tied up with the business part of show business, but with the brave women and men of the #MeToo, #TimesUp movements speaking out and Black Panther breaking box office records, there is hope that all of those issues and themes are being “blown out of the water” in one fell swoop …

I was then reminded the other day when rewatching Spielberg’s film Lincoln in honor of Presidents week, that it was Rep. Fernando Wood from New York who rallied against the 13th Amendment to abolish slavery. For many above the Mason-Dixon Line who opposed the amendment, it had little to do with the equality of the races or basic morality; it was about the slave economy of the South, which was tightly linked to Wall Street through the commodity of cotton. Needless to say, for many, the commercial interests at stake rose above any others. Fortunately, that was not enough to overtly stop the scourge of our nation at the time as the amendment narrowly passed, but the avarice for trade rather than maintaining the dignity of human beings seeped into our fabric more subversively through our long history of institutional racism and mass incarceration, the ramifications of which we continue to deal with today. (And some would say tied to the Second Amendment issue mentioned earlier, file under: slave patrols).

I am not anti-money or even anti-capitalism. Money is a necessary part of life; it’s the way we have a civilized exchange of goods and services, and it can be used to demonstrate love for ourselves and others, through gifts and donations to causes. The problem is when we value PROFIT over PEOPLE. It’s when the cost of doing business is literally costing lives – whether psychologically, professionally, emotionally or the ultimate cost: physical life.

Unless you are part of the 1 percent, it’s easy to feel helpless under the weight of all this power via the proxy of money.  Although we can certainly use the tools of our votes and our pocketbooks to fight back, real power is something else and is inherent in each one of us and our actions. It all starts with how we approach and interact with our own lives and relationships. We each have the power to choose sensitivity over security; to transform our fear into friendliness, our anger into action and our evolving awareness into a constant affirmation of positive over negative.

As the saying goes, what you focus on grows. So what or who are you worshipping or idolizing? What are your values? Where can you help replace greed with goodness?

Every major religion has its form of the Golden Rule, which admonishes us to treat others as we would want to be treated, so what does that mean about how we are treating ourselves and others? Where are you committing violence against yourself or those closest to you? Where are you putting profit over your purpose? Are you indulging in passivity instead of persistence? Do you prefer purely financial interests with disregard to innate integrity?  As individuals, corporations and a nation, we must balance our moral bottom lines with our bank accounts and neutralize the negative aspects of the monetary monster we have materialized and metastasized.

There was a time when many cultures and civilizations prayed and sacrificed to gods and idols for blessings and protection; we then had the monotheistic traditions of Abraham, Moses, Jesus and Muhammad, who call upon the Almighty Yahweh or Allah for salvation and healing. We now need to recognize that we are the ones who can save ourselves, and can do so in tandem with the Universe or God by any name we call it, and/or by simply relying upon the pure willpower, strength and generosity of spirit that can be cultivated within each of us, many examples of which have been demonstrated, yes, these past two weeks, in perfect divine coordination from the big U.

Because you see, much of this chaos and calamity was going down simultaneously as the athletes of the Olympic Games, an event inspired by the Ancient Greeks, bring the entire world together to remind us of how human excellence and greatness, both literal and metaphoric, can be achieved. With discipline and dedication, teamwork and tenacity, passion and perseverance – along with a firm belief and utter faith in our ability to attain our highest and best potential – we can create boundless beauty, inspire breathtaking awe, and indeed, fly.

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Last June I had someone film parts of my New Attitude Summer School series, which resulted in this very-roughly-edited-not-the-best-quality video of uninterrupted remarks wrapping up the workshop “Lead Yourself to Success (in Work & Life!)

In this excerpt covering the final ten minutes, I summarize my thoughts about confidence, being a leader in your own life,  maintaining your individuality and humanity in the times we live in, and why the world is relying on you to be successful.   Enjoy & Stay Tuned for Fall Classes!

Click here to watch video

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These days it seems that ugly is the status quo. We are bombarded with so many negative events, factual and fictional – both served up as entertainment- that we have simply become used to it. In these days of doom and gloom I encourage you all to imagine the opposite: What if Beauty became the norm?

And when I talk about Beauty, I don’t mean a two-dimensional feast for the eyes, or pleasure for pleasure’s sake, although that is part of it.  True beauty is three-dimensional; it is something to be felt and experienced, not just superficially appreciated.  Beauty happens inside and out.  It is never just cosmetic. It is something to be absorbed by every fiber of your being, whether admiring a work of art, listening to music, observing Nature in its magnificent glory, witnessing an act of courage or compassion or enjoying a person’s human expression at its best.

So, where do we begin, how do we do this? It’s tempting to just tune out and distract ourselves with whatever we can, and hope that the problems of the world instantly vanish or some drug company creates a pill for peace.  But the truth is that the more disconnected and desensitized we become, the more problems we will have.

Most people are walking around emotionally constipated. We need to keep our senses alive, intact, ebbing and flowing in a balanced way – yet not letting them run the show or allowing any external images or situations grab control of us. We need to be able to respond from the deepest human level so we can know how to react, when to take action, when to pick up the phone, when to tweet or post something, when to set boundaries or ask for help, and when to turn off the TV or computer.

Brene Brown, in her now-famous Ted Talk on vulnerablity, tells us that when we numb the bad, we numb the good too.  So you can’t just shut yourself off if you want to feel love, compassion, empathy, kindness, and yes even feel beauty.   Feeling means we are alive.  If not, then what are we?

Duality is a fact of life: in order to appreciate the sunshine, you need the rain. Once you are able to connect with and feel ALL of what is going on within you, with a little regular detox of laughter and tears, you can deal with the not-so-pleasant emotions as they come up, let go of them more easily, and conversely take hold of and relish in the positive, ecstatic and joyous ones even longer – expanding and benefiting from that energy more profoundly.

Look for Beauty everywhere and let in the Beauty to overpower the beast. Allow the darkness, anger, pain and shame to move through you so that you can then use that same vehicle to embody and express supreme joy and love when they abound. You can then more accurately observe and call out injustice because you know in your heart what truth, justice, goodness and beauty look and feel like.

Not quite sure how to go from Blah to Bliss? Give me a buzz, and I’ll show you how living life as a fully-fledged member of the human race has its rewards, and being able to FEEL Truth, Freedom, Beauty & Love are by far the best!

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Want to make 2018 the year you create more beauty in your life but not sure how or where to start? 

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*You can also register for TOMORROW’s Visioning Workshop on Saturday 2/17! 

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(Today’s PGG  was originally published in full on August 20, 2014)

CLICK HERE TO WATCH FULL LENGTH VIDEO OF MY TALK “WHO ARE YOU & WHAT ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO BE DOING WITH YOU LIFE?” GIVEN ON 1/31 AT SIBL

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Last June I had someone film parts of my New Attitude Summer School series, which resulted in this very-roughly-edited-not-the-best-quality video of uninterrupted remarks wrapping up the workshop “Lead Yourself to Success (in Work & Life!)

In this excerpt covering the final ten minutes, I summarize my thoughts about confidence, being a leader in your own life,  maintaining your individuality and humanity in the times we live in, and why the world is relying on you to be successful.   Enjoy & Stay Tuned for Fall Classes!

Click here to watch video

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If you like what I write, you’ll love what I have to say in person!   Click on above links for info about my coaching and speaking services and contact me today. 

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I recently attended a double feature of documentaries at the Explorer’s Club and was particularly moved by the film Man on a Mission, which follows the lifelong journey of multimillionaire video game celebrity/genius Richard Garriott and his dream to become the first second-generation American astronaut.

Now, I’m not a “space cadet” (as I learned such enthusiasts are called) but I did become enraptured by this extraordinary man’s quest, despite several obstacles, millions of dollars, and intense physical and mental training to manifest his desire to follow in his father’s footsteps. Like any other person with their eye on the prize, he just did whatever he needed to make things happen, and it’s a truly inspiring real-life, albeit super-sized, tale.

But besides making groundbreaking history and removing barriers to space travel, Garriott described his experience as transformational – as many who return from orbit do – because of what is called the ” overview effect,”seeing Earth from outer space and the internal shift and revelations that transpire as a result.

Yet you don’t have to endure zero gravity or eat freeze-dried goop to get a similar perspective if you just take a step back from time to time and simply imagine what your life would look like if observed from the International Space Station, and how it fits into the rest of the Big Blue Marble we inhabit.

If you can’t quite get there on your own, then give me a buzz so I can reflect a little moonlight on you and have our session be the launchpad to a life that any Earthling or extraterrestrial would envy!

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Want to make 2018 the year you manifest YOUR desire* but not sure how or where to start? 

Contact me today to prepare for your liftoff in career and life!
*You can also register for the upcoming Visioning Workshop on Saturday 2/17! 

(Today’s PGG was originally published on January 7, 2014)

CLICK HERE TO WATCH FULL LENGTH VIDEO OF MY TALK “WHO ARE YOU & WHAT ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO BE DOING WITH YOU LIFE?” GIVEN ON 1/31 AT SIBL

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Last June I had someone film parts of my New Attitude Summer School series (see info below), which resulted in this very-roughly-edited-not-the-best-quality video of uninterrupted remarks wrapping up the workshop “Lead Yourself to Success (in Work & Life!)

In this excerpt covering the final ten minutes, I summarize my thoughts about confidence, being a leader in your own life,  maintaining your individuality and humanity in the times we live in, and why the world is relying on you to be successful.   Enjoy & Stay Tuned for Fall Classes!

Click here to watch video

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If you like what I write, you’ll love what I have to say in person!   Click on above links for info about my coaching and speaking services and contact me today. 

Read over forty 5-star “Yelp” style reviews here

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Truth is a deep kindness that teaches us to be content in our everyday life and share with the people the same happiness . ~ Khalil Gibran

If you look for truth, you may get comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get truth only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and, in the end, despair. ~ C.S. Lewis

New Year’s always stirs up thoughts about what we want to change in our lives, but that means you need to have a good idea of what needs to change in the first place – and like the famous prayer says, have the serenity to accept the things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Getting to that accurate perception is the first step, and might actually be more important than making the change; therefore perhaps our work this year is to “snap out of it” and instead see ourselves, situations and people as they really are, not how we’d like them to be.  Then and only then can real change begin.

Humans, especially 21st century versions, want what we want when we want it; our media and technology only makes this worse, fueling our impulses and imagination with its magnified distortion of time, place and interaction; they enable us to more easily delude ourselves in thinking our situation is one way when it is in fact another; when we think a job, our health, or a relationship is positive when it’s not, or vice versa. They distract us and makes us forget that anything lasting is a process and requires massive amounts of reflection, patience and perseverance.

As the biblical saying goes, “Know the truth and the truth shall set you free”.  It’s not always fun getting there. Letting go of lifelong dreams and illusions as well as accepting ourselves, people and circumstances as they are – relinquishing any hope that they are or will become what or who you wish them to be – can be extremely painful and, in fact, feel like a death that you need to grieve.

The good news is that knowing and accepting the truth affords us a more profound, productive and meaningful life experience when we know what is real. When we live from that place we can then make better decisions about addressing any situation, how to improve it or let it go – the more accurate the assessment, the more effective the solution can be.

Because of my talent for connecting the dots, cutting through the “crap” and getting to the root of things quickly and directly, my clients might not like what I have to tell them at first – yet they always come back to me days, weeks or years later and admit it was not necessarily what they wanted to hear, but ultimately exactly what they needed at the time. (And saved them thousands of dollars in therapy!)

The truth can be overwhelming but once you acknowledge it, you can really start to move forward. So before you seriously embark any resolutions, begin there. It’s Strong Medicine to start off the year, but essential if you want to get healthy in any area of your life.

Feeling like A Change is Gonna Come, but not sure how to make it happen? Give me a buzz and I’ll be the doctor with the diagnosis and that spoon full of sugar to make the medicine go down! ❤

(Today’s PGG was originally published on January 7, 2014)

CLICK HERE TO WATCH FULL LENGTH VIDEO OF MY TALK “WHO ARE YOU & WHAT ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO BE DOING WITH YOU LIFE?” GIVEN ON 1/31 AT SIBL

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Last June I had someone film parts of my New Attitude Summer School series (see info below), which resulted in this very-roughly-edited-not-the-best-quality video of uninterrupted remarks wrapping up the workshop “Lead Yourself to Success (in Work & Life!)

In this excerpt covering the final ten minutes, I summarize my thoughts about confidence, being a leader in your own life,  maintaining your individuality and humanity in the times we live in, and why the world is relying on you to be successful.   Enjoy & Stay Tuned for Fall Classes!

Click here to watch video

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If you like what I write, you’ll love what I have to say in person!   Click on above links for info about my coaching and speaking services and contact me today. 

Read over forty 5-star “Yelp” style reviews here

Join Mailing List

 Like us on Facebook    Follow us on Twitter   View our profile on LinkedIn  View on Instagram                 

Read more about me and my work in these past PGG’s:

All Roads, Same Place | And Now, A Word from Our Sponsor | Strong Medicine | 10,000 Hours | A Decade of Doing What I Do | Express Yourself 

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