Archives for the month of: December, 2015

Whew!  We made it.  Another year under our belts – and what a year it was! I found it really interesting to go back over and compile this list of PGGs written in 2015 (the others you receive are recycled from past years); I had forgotten about many of them and was wondering who wrote these?!?

It hasn’t been an easy 12 months from microcosm to macrocosm, and these PGG’s reflect the intensity and urgency of where we are as a culture, nation and planet.  I highly encourage you to take some time to read them over the next few days to provide a reflective start to your new year!

As many of you know, this has been a challenging year of immense stress, sadness and transition for me due to my mother’s illness and passing, and everything that entails. At the same time I have experienced great healing, growth and even joy as a result of having gone (and still going) through the process in a vulnerable, healthy way and it’s been so special to connect with people through the meaningful interactions that this brings out in both friends and strangers.  Perhaps you experienced loss too, whether a loved one, job, divorce or other big event; if not you might be acutely attuned to the world’s crisis and loss of life around the globe and found yourself having to adjust to a new version of reality.

But with death always comes birth, so one bright spot for me was certainly my PGG:The Book being released into the world with all the wonderful feedback so many of you offered. I’ve included those PGG’s here as well in case you missed that coming out. (And of course, be sure to grab yourself a copy and tell a friend if you haven’t already done so! )

What about your 2015? This is a great time to take a look at your calendars, journals, datebooks and even social media pages to do your own year in review – it is incredibly gratifying and enlightening to see what you have accomplished, been through and experienced – the good, the bad and the ugly – to see how much you’ve grown, where you are now, and who and where you want to be in the months and years ahead before you pop-open the bubbly!

I also wanted to take a moment to sincerely express my gratitude to everyone here for all of your support of me and what I do – whether you attended a seminar, became a coaching client, or simply read a PGG every now and then – THANK YOU for allowing me to be who I am, and to express myself in all of these ways!  I am so honored by your presence, attention and love and it allows me to keep on keepin’ on even when the going gets tough!

Wishing you the most Productive, Positive and Peaceful New Year you can possibly imagine and then some!  Please know I am always here for you and would be happy to help you realize the best possible version of who you are in 2016 and beyond!

Big hug, Kristina

2015 PGG Links & Excerpts:

 Radiohead 

 “…why not think about detoxing and tuning-up your mental and emotional diets, adjusting your atmosphere and exercising a more positive attitude towards yourself and others?”

Grey’s Anatomy

“Like the Buddha says of a string on the sitar, if it’s too tight it will break, too loose and you won’t get any sound from it.  Either way the music dies. Life does not exist in black or white, but in fact found in the many shades between.”

The Fog of War

“The most dangerous threat we all faced, and continue to face, is that of ‘divide and conquer’; of thinking we are the lone soldier out in the battlefield and that we have to suffer in silence…. We cannot isolate in our trenches – we must reach out to our platoon – that is what they are there for!”

PGG: The Book!

“…a book of insightful essays (injected with fun and humor) to help guide, inspire, and make sense of life’s daily challenges and milestones alike. If you need a mood booster or helping hand, check it out!”

Tomorrow is Now

“One antidote to this anxiety is remembering that everyone has a gift to offer and when you both discover and use that gift in the present, it is much easier to trust what may come tomorrow.”

Green Means Go

“Think about how the trees and plants are always there, evolving, growing, moving towards life, no matter what they’re handed or how much they suffer – they remain steadfast in supporting and healing us. By giving thanks perhaps we can counteract some of the abuse we has humans have doled out!”

Peace Out

“It is not easy to watch someone die, let alone someone you love, and someone who was such a force of nature.”

Things that make you go hmmmm....

“….131 essays about self-care, career direction, transition, stress, feeling lost, going with the flow and more. They’re ideas, observations, and unique perspectives to make you think about yourself and your life in a new way, motivate you to make positive change, help ease those challenging times and perhaps have a chuckle or two.”

The Right Stuff 

“The more we can start looking at our own lives with the ‘overview effect’, the more we can plan for our highest and best exit when the inevitable day arrives.”

Hide and Seek

“Remember what themes spoke to you last week, what you and everyone around you innately responded to and was stimulated and stirred within: kindness, inclusion, healing, empathy.”

What Lies Beneath 

“Be generous in spirit, in time, money, health, love, compassion, presence and kindness. Let generosity, not greed, be your underlying force – and when looking at others’ actions try to understand theirs – it will give you much more information than appears and help you separate the wheat from the chaff.”

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No matter what the topic, I always talk about two things in my seminars: how can we expect to have peace on this planet if we don’t have peace in our own lives; and everyone should cook.  Ergo, we must have peace in our kitchens in order to have peace in our lives in order to have peace in the world.  

Whether you consider yourself the next Top Chef or think heating up leftovers in the microwave qualifies, my go-to recipe that gourmets and gauche gourmands alike can make is pea soup. Cooking in general, and especially something like soup, is extremely meditative and teaches us that life does not always function like an instant message; this forces you to slow down, be more present, have more patience and then literally enjoy the fruits of your labor.

One ingredient alone won’t cut it, and you can really make the recipe your own.  Each chopped up piece of onion, carrot, celery, garlic, (ham, kale, turnip, parsnip, sweet potato…whatever else you want to put in there) and of course split peas, ultimately blend together in an harmonious way; the whole meal is highly nutritious with many healthy benefits, and the subtle combination of these diverse components, over time, brings out the best in each other.  Yum.

The United States has been called a melting pot, and as a struggling global superpower, if that can truly be realized in its most positive sense, the rest of the world has a pretty good shot as well.  So, as you’re making the soup, perhaps visualize the ingredients as Red States and Blue States, the Rich and the Poor, White, Black, Muslim, Non-Muslim, Gay, Straight, Liberals and Conservatives – and why not throw in the countries of the European Union as well, since they need all the help they can get at the moment…

But if you really are a menace in the galley, you can always take a mental ride on the Peace Train or imagine yourself a member of the YouTube Symphony Orchestra, with 100 artists from over 30 countries playing more than two dozen diverse instruments, coming together to create that beautiful universal language known as music.

Still feel like your Jong is kind of Il?  Give me a buzz and I’ll help unite your body, relationships, career and life so they can be peas in a pod and you can make your contribution by experiencing a deeper sense of peace in your piece of the pie.  

(Today’s PGG was originally posted on December 20, 2011)

Wishing you and your family a peaceful holiday filled with
Light, Love and Laughter!

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I recently attended the screening of a very cool documentary called Connected: An Autobiography About Love, Death & Technology.  An ambitious undertaking, filmmaker Tiffany Shlain has presented some interesting ideas and factoids in a unique visual way about the history of who we are and the connections we have to each other from the past, present and where we might be headed in the future.

One of the best tidbits I learned was that if you hug someone for six seconds or more, a dose of the feel-good hormone oxytocin is released.

Many of you who have worked with me individually, in a group or have talked to me after one of my workshops or seminars, know that I’m a big hugger.  In addition to hugging my clients and audience members, I tend to hug strangers after a meaningful conversation, and even in more professional situations, say after a meeting, which may or may not be kosher, but I can’t help it!  I often randomly hug friends, family members and co-workers because I somehow sense they need one, and I will occasionally request one myself (especially from a super-good hugger, like my bro!)

Why? I’ve actually never thought about it.  It’s just always been a natural extension of who I am, the work I do and my love of people in general.  If I had to intellectualize it, perhaps it’s about sealing an interaction in a Yes, I see and hear you, you see and hear me, and we can show mutual love, respect and care for each other as human beings in the most tangible way.”

And let’s face it, who couldn’t use a hug now and then?  We should be able to give and receive hugs freely, but for those of you who need to justify your request, there’s a scientific explanation, because hey, who wouldn’t want to get a little shot of some naturally feel-good feelings?!  So forget about the economy and the internet, because the true currency of connection is the HUG, and the good news is that it’s available worldwide and abundant in infinite amounts.

Feeling a little stressed or simply need a boost to brighten your day?  Instead of reaching for that Twix bar or beer, have no fear, don’t you pout just say hello and hug it out! 

(Today’s PGG was originally posted on September 27, 2011)

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***Please note:  I realize this is much (way) longer and perhaps more political than my average PGG – apparently I had to get a few things off my chest! So bear with me, will be back to more regular fare next week…

 Wisdom and folly both are like meats that are wholesome and unwholesome, and courtly or simple words are like town-made or rustic vessels – both kinds of food may be served in either kind of dish.

The inclination to seek the truth is safer than the presumption which regards unknown things as known.

We sin when we have our loves out of order.

~ All quotes courtesy of St. Augustine of Hippo (last one paraphrased via David Brooks)

Once again these past few weeks it feels like we’ve been kicked in the gut, bamboozled and sucker-punched. We have been experiencing an assault on our senses that takes extreme discipline and vigilance to filter and sift through, lest we become casualties of a different sort; reacting out of fear, being dragged into a divisive tornado, or simply unable to function due to the overwhelm of it all which affects us physically, emotionally and/or mentally. Or we pretend nothing is happening because it’s just too much.  We can’t seem to catch a break.

We are interconnected and impacted by each other more than ever; events everywhere are harder to ignore even if we wanted to, as social media only amplifies all that is happening. On the other hand, there are legions and layers of news – or narratives – that barely, if ever get to see the light of day from whatever story has hijacked the news cycle. And for a while now that’s been a revolving door of mass shootings, climate change/extreme weather, police brutality/racism, reproductive rights, domestic and foreign terrorism, refugees, and a Kardashian – interspersed with ads telling us to buy, buy, buy, now, now, now – all having their moments interchangeably ad nauseam. The fear-and-war-mongering is relentless.

It’s easy to feel powerless during these times but we can do our part as I always say, to “create peace in our piece of the pie.”  The first thing you can do is check your own thoughts and perceptions and consider the source of the information we are receiving, what is behind, what is underneath what has occurred – look beyond face value and put yourself on both sides of the equation:

Just because you behaved badly doesn’t mean you are a bad person; perhaps your behavior is controlling you due to an addiction, personality, disorder or mental illness.

Just because you are Muslim doesn’t mean you are fundamental extremist, and just because you are a Christian doesn’t mean that you are not.

Just because you are a police officer doesn’t mean you are innocent, and just because you are a poor person of color doesn’t meant that you’re not.

Just because you don’t have an abortion doesn’t mean that you are pro-life and just because you did doesn’t mean that you aren’t.

Just because you were incarcerated for a crime doesn’t mean that you were, or still are, a criminal.

Just because you have a lot of money or a fancy title doesn’t mean you are right, and just because are poor or uneducated doesn’t mean that you’re not.

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The mark of the immature man is that he wants to die nobly for a cause, while the mark of the mature man is that he wants to live humbly for one. ~ J.D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye

Growing up is hard, love. Otherwise everyone would do it. ~ Kim Harrison, Pale Demon

It is our responsibility as nations and citizens to take care of each other and this planet we inhabit. But all too often it seems we forget that we have any say or power or control over our lives and environment as we go along in our daily routines – Mother Nature has her way with us; radical terrorists and out-of-control law enforcement use violence in extreme ways to threaten us physically and psychologically here and abroad; our government legislates what we should eat, think, and do with our bodies; and corporations use advertising, lobbying and Hollywood tell us who we are, what we should buy, believe in, and vote for, and what we should or should not be doing with our time, money and energy.

And in our private lives, we tend to rely on others – whether your parents, spouses and partners, friends, doctors, teachers, boss, news outlets and conventional wisdom – more than we should, and are more overwhelmed and distracted than ever with the consumption of digital media via accompanying gadgets/appendages. As a result, we forget we can have a unique opinion, make more conscious decisions that go against the grain, and above all think for ourselves rather than just absorb and digest (literally and metaphorically) what is being offered, served, or shoved down our throats.

When you’re a child, you generally have no choice or don’t know better and have to accept the status quo of whatever the adults around you say goes, but as you get older it’s time to check in and ask yourself, Who’s Your Daddy now?

Relationships are the glue that hold the world together and gives meaning to our lives; they include our relationship to ourselves, each other, our country, the Earth, and the Universe/God/Higher Power/ Nature.  But when we allow a relationship to anyone or anything outside ourselves to be the ultimate authority over us – whether with a parent, child, friend, the government, social media or zeitgeist – we are giving up our individual power to control our destiny and prevent ourselves from emotionally maturing. These are the types of unhealthy dependent relationships, rather than healthy interdependent ones, that are causing our planet to fall apart.

Growing up means taking responsibility for every aspect of your life. Many of us prefer to remain in a half-baked adulthood that never really evolves to its full potential because we are too busy or distracted to see who is really in control – and because it’s easier to pop a pill or let someone else take care of it. But it requires courage, elbow grease, and internal effort every step of the way to be who we are truly meant to be.

We all have to do our part to take ownership of our environment, health, and happiness in mind, body and spirit. No one else can do this for us. By becoming stronger in who you are you can then use our full power and potential to help those who cannot yet help themselves, and create structures and systems from microcosm to macrocosm that will support a sustainable and peaceful life no matter who you are or where you are from.

Still feeling like a Toys ‘R Us kid?  Give me a buzz and I’ll help you mature into a full-fledged self-mama or self-papa (without losing that essential childlike sense of play!) so that we can create a global village of audacious authentic adults.

(*A version of today’s PGG was originally posted on September 25, 2014)

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