Reality Bites

Truth is a deep kindness that teaches us to be content in our everyday life and share with the people the same happiness. ~ Khalil Gibran

If you look for truth, you may get comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get truth only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and in the end, despair. ~ C.S. Lewis

New Year’s always stirs up thoughts about what we want to change in our lives, but that means you need to have a good idea of what needs to change in the first place – and like the famous prayer says, have the serenity to accept the things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Getting to that accurate perception is the first step, and might actually be more important than making the change; therefore perhaps our work this year is to ‘snap out of it’ and instead see ourselves, situations and people as they really are, not how we’d like them to be.  Then, and only then, can real change begin.

Humans, especially 21st century versions, want what we want when we want it; our media and technology only makes this worse, fueling our impulses and imagination with its magnified distortion of time, place and interaction; it enables us to more easily delude ourselves in thinking our situation is one way, when it is in fact another; when we think a job, our health, or relationships are positive when it’s not, or, vice versa.  It distracts us and makes us forget that anything lasting is a process and requires massive amounts of reflection, patience and perseverance.

As the saying goes, ‘know the truth and the truth shall set you free’.  It’s not always fun getting there, and letting go of lifelong dreams and illusions and accepting ourselves, people and circumstances as they are, relinquishing any hope that they are or will become what or who you wish them to be can be extremely painful and in fact feel like a death which you need to grieve.

But the good news is that knowing and accepting the truth affords us a more profound, productive and meaningful life experience when we know what is real. When we live from that place we can then make better decisions about addressing any situation, how to improve it or let it go – the more accurate the assessment, the more effective the solution can be.

Because of my talent for connecting the dots, cutting through the ‘crap’ and getting to the root of things quickly and directly, my clients might not like what I have to tell them at first – yet they always come back to me days, weeks or years later and admit it was not necessarily what they wanted to hear, but ultimately exactly what they needed at the time. (….And saved them thousands of dollars in therapy!)

The truth can be overwhelming but once acknowledged means you can really start to move forward. So before you seriously embark any resolutions, begin there. It’s strong medicine to start the year off, but essential if you want to get healthy in any area of your life.

Feeling like A Change is Gonna Come, but not sure how to make it happen? Give me a buzz and I’ll be the doctor with the diagnosis and that spoon full of sugar to make the medicine go down! ❤

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